In their much earlier years, my daughter and her husband stopped by our house on their way down to the car wash to run their car through and vacuum the inside. Our son in law offered to do the same for my husbands car. He gladly accepted the offer. "we will pick up yours after we do ours" he responded.
Later my husband rode with me to run errands. When we returned home, his unwashed car was as we had left it. "those kids," followed by a few descriptive words exposed his disappointment. He put his hand in his pocket and found the reason--the car keys were in his hand.
Before you assume and access any situation or seemingly behavior, remember there is always at least one factor you don't know.
"You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgement on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgement do the same things." Romans 2:1 niv
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